In May I wrote about Pressure Gaugers: people who act as support beams before anyone realizes that support is needed. Today, I’d like reframe the same concept in a different light. The core principle at play is anticipation – the concept that one should be continuously aware of what might happen next.
While anticipating someone’s deeper needs is important, it can also go a long way to help people with basic conveniences.
Think about it – in a round-about-way there is real economic ‘value’ that you are providing just by being a good friend. The difference between nice hotels, restaurants and gyms and their respective lower quality counter parts is that nice costs A LOT more mostly because it includes much better service (and a staff that anticipates client’s needs).
Just by going the extra way for your friends, you’re building a relationship that is based on kindnesses and gifts…gifts that are easy to give and that mean a lot to receive. I’m talking about really easy stuff here — like passing the remote when you stop watching TV, or thinking to bring a glass of water when you’re coming back from the kitchen because you noticed your friend just sat down to eat but doesn’t have a drink.
The most impressive & meaningful part is if you can truly anticipate and think of your friend’s needs before they do.
Anticipate and address your brother’s needs and wants before they realize what they need or want.
The little things matter more than you think. Try doing it for one friend for one week.